Learn to help each other grow.
This is no small task, but it’s vital. Too many of us are locked in the externally driven values of the first half of our lives – accumulating wealth, raising a family, securing the country club membership, buying the retirement home. But then, when it’s all accomplished, we look at each other and say, “What now?” We’re lost. We find ourselves asking, like that old Peggy Lee song, “Is this all there is?”
In relationship counseling at Pritikin, Dr. Arvon works with couples to develop not just new habits, but new values. “It can be so exciting,” she says, “when a couple suddenly breaks through to those ‘Ah ha’ moments that bring happiness, purpose, and love.”
The technique employed is Imago Relationship Therapy, which is different from most therapies. Instead of talking to the therapist or letting the therapist be the referee, couples talk to each other in new ways that bring more pleasure into their partnership. They also develop a passion for life that comes, not from external forces, but from internal enlightenment.
“Couples discover what they really want,” explains Dr. Arvon, “and, of course, it goes far beyond food and drink. The good news is, once you know what you’re trying to achieve, you’re on your way. You can connect that goal, often with very little effort, to the lifestyle choices you make. With your passion renewed, change is easy. Healthy living is easy.”
The transition to a healthier, more purposeful state of being is delicate work. It takes commitment, “but it’s so important,” urges Dr. Arvon. “It can take you out of the ordinary, the daily rut of sub-par foods and sub-par attitudes, and help you discover the riches within.”